Monthly Archives: March 2010

According to Him…

Several months ago I heard a song on the radio that just stuck (or maybe I mean struck). Like a fist punched me in the stomach and just stayed there. I’ve heard the song many times since and it always has the same effect on me. It always brings to my mind the battle going on inside me (my mind). There’s a voice in my head telling me one thing but there’s also a presence (it’s more than just a voice) in my heart telling me the opposite.

 I know that Orianthi is singing about two guys in her life and how they view her. I’m sure there are some very deep meanings hidden between the lines (like why would you even consider staying with a guy and wasting time on someone who thinks you’re stupid and useless?) but the thing that strikes me EVERY TIME I hear the song is “According to you = my enemy” and “According to Him = Him with a capital H, my Savior.”

 Read the words of the song and see if you see what I see.

 According To You

I’m stupid
I’m useless
I can’t do anything right

According to you
I’m difficult
Hard to please
Forever changing my mind
I’m a mess in a dress
Can’t show up on time
Even if it would save my life
According to you
According to you

But according to him
I’m beautiful, incredible
He can’t get me out of his head
According to him
I’m funny,irresistible
Everything he ever wanted
Everything is opposite
I don’t feel like stopping it
So baby tell me what I got to lose
He’s into me for everything I’m not
According to you

According to you
I’m boring
I’m moody
You can’t take me any place

According to you
I suck at telling jokes cause I always give it away
I’m the girl with the worst attention span
You’re the boy who puts up with it
According to you
According to you

But according to him
I’m beautiful,incredible
He can’t get me out of his head

According to him
I’m funny, irresistible
Everything he ever wanted
Everything is opposite
I don’t feel like stopping it
So baby tell me what I got to lose
He’s into me for everything I’m not
According to you

I need to feel appreciated
like I’m not hated
Oh, no
Why can’t you see me through his eyes?
It’s too bad you’re making me dizz-ay

According to me
you’re stupid
you’re useless
you can’t do anything right

But according to him
I’m beautiful, incredible
He can’t get me out of his head

According to him
I’m funny, irresistible
Everything he ever wanted
Everything is opposite
I don’t feel like stopping it
Baby tell me what I got to lose
He’s into me for everything I’m not
According to you [you, you]
According to you [you, you]

According to you
I’m stupid
I’m useless
I can’t do anything right

Okay, other than the part where she turns the bad guy’s words back on him and calls him “baby”, do you see it? Do you ever hear those words in your own head?

Over the last several days I’ve advised people not to buy in to the lies of our enemy. Not to make agreements with him by believing the things he accuses them of being. I challenged them to find scripture to back up the accusations and suggested that they would in fact find the opposite. I know they will find TRUTH. They will find that they are LOVED, WONDERFULLY MADE, CHERISHED, WANTED, FOUGHT FOR and ultimately DIED FOR!

Now it’s time for me to confess my hypocrisy. It’s a heck of a lot easier to tell someone the truth you want them to believe than to make yourself believe it. Satan beats me up with these same lies on a regular basis. I listen to them WAY more than I should. I know they’re not true, but they injure me nonetheless. It has to stop! Time’s a wastin’ (as the saying goes). God has a job for me to do, for us to do, and the distraction of those lies keeps us from giving it our all.

 So, who’s in? Who’s ready to kick some enemy tail and boldly say, “We’re not listening to your lies anymore. You don’t want me, you don’t need me, and you can’t have me! I belong to Him and He appreciates me like no other!”

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Comfort Isn’t Always #1

I’ve been feeling the need to write for so long but can I tell you that I’m reading this book that is rocking my world right now? The title of the book is 66 Love Letters by Dr. Larry Crabb. I’m not saying more right now because I need to finish reading the book before I write  my review. Just trust me, you will not want to miss this one. Actually you could go ahead and get it now and when I write my review we can have the most WONDERFUL discussions!

Now back to a little smidge of what God’s been teaching me recently.

I’ve mentioned on this blog before and to those who actually know me it’s no surprise, I’m a fixer. I like to fix things and I like to make sure that everyone is comfortable, knows what to expect and is properly prepared for “the next thing.” I’ve actually prided myself (first mistake) on being able to anticipate needs and meet them before they are even realized. On being able to navigate a detour around a sticky situation and get the train back on the right track in the blink of an eye.

Just the other day I was made aware of a set of circumstances that could potentially create some “uncomfortable” moments for a group of friends. Immediately I was in “fix-it” mode. I now realize that the motive behind my actions stems more from being a control freak and less from the desire to minimize the discomfort of others. Trying to control everything is a form of selfishness and self-centeredness. This is me being honest. That’s the first thing God revealed to me.

The second thing was that I need to know when to leave things alone (actually they are not “alone”, they’re in God’s hands). It was as if God spoke so clearly into my soul and said, “Sometimes I put people in an uncomfortable situation as a catalyst. Sometimes that’s what it takes to move people forward and get them to the place they need to be. So, unless I ask you to, please don’t remove the burr under the saddle. It’s there for a reason.”

And as it often turns out the greatest lesson is the most obvious. I can’t count the number of times God has used a stick of dynamite to move this stubborn soul from something good to get me to something better. I’m notorious for hanging out in the comfort zone. I should have realized that I could actually be hindering people from advancing to their next step by keeping them comfortable where they are.

Now my goal is to pay closer attention to the circumstances. In some situations God is moving ME forward and using me to relieve or comfort someone’s suffering. Other times He’s telling me to leave the burr under the saddle, to leave the small pebble in the shoe or the splinter in the finger. He has it covered. He has a purpose. He has a plan. ALWAYS!

Question: So how do you know when it’s time to step in and take action or to stand back and watch God miraculously use irritation to draw out the best in a person? Have you ever seen it happen?